The Psychology Behind Limerence, Obsession, and Love
In this evidence-based synthesis paper, I reviewed psychological research that explained the differences between limerence, obsession, and genuine romantic love. I reviewed fifteen studies published between 2005 and 2025 to explore how people regulate their emotions, process information, and the different attachment styles that differentiate limerence, obsession, and romantic love. Limerence is an under-researched condition that was first introduced by the psychologist Dorothy Tennov and it is characterized by intense idealization and uncertainty about reciprocation, which causes distress to the sufferer. Obsessive love is characterized by controlling attitudes, insecure attachment, and dependency. These behaviors can be linked to psychopathological traits or even criminal behaviors. Genuine romantic love reflects mutual affection and care, secure attachment, and stability. Sociocultural influences, gender expectations, and the way a person responds to unrequited love or being rejected can shape how these experiences are manifested. One of the main limitations is that there is not much research on limerence and therefore, it can be confused with obsessive behaviors. Future research should focus on the distinctions between these two to improve therapeutic treatment and diagnoses.
PSY 499, Senior Capstone
Erin Mueller
Goodrich 209
11 – 11:30 AM